I’m seeing a new guy, is he over his ex?

Three cards came out for "am I seeing someone who is over his ex": Nine of Wands reversed in the past, King of Cups upright now, Two of Cups reversed ahead. Here's what they do and don't answer.

They don't report his interior. That seat — "is he over her" — only shows up as the version of him you can observe, so read it that way.

Past — Nine of Wands reversed. The aftermath reads as a tired man lowering a wall, not a man holding one. Whatever happened, the position he took around it is spent rather than defensive. Reversed here is less about bracing and more about a guard that's already been taken down and hasn't been re-raised.

Present — King of Cups. The figure in the room right now is composed and even-tempered — controlled, warm on the surface, not flooded. That's a man who is managing himself around you. Whether that steadiness comes from having closed a chapter or from having simply learned to keep his hands steady in general, the cards don't say, and I won't pretend otherwise.

Future — Two of Cups reversed. The seat that would be about you two is off-tilt. This is the most useful card in the spread: the wobble is on the partnership line, not on the ex line. Under this condition, what you're watching for is a cup that isn't lining up — ease, warmth, contact — without a settled, mutual shape behind it.

The conditional: if what you can see lines up with a man living one life in the present — the ex is a settled fact rather than a live topic, and his calendar and attention are plainly his own — then the Two of Cups reversal says the friction you'd feel is between you two, not between him and her. If instead what you can see says he's still keeping something open — availability that depends on his mood, a door he hasn't shut, her still running in the background of things — then the reversed Nine of Wands says the wall isn't up; he's simply tired, and that is where your eyes go next.

One step, this week, that brings back what cards can't: make one plan next week that doesn't include him, tell him plainly that you're doing it, and then let his response happen without you steering it. Don't ask him about her to get an answer — ask nothing and watch what he does with the fact of you being busy. Whether he makes room for it, asks a single question, or doesn't, is a piece of evidence you can file — and no card here can give you that one.

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