I have three questions about my love lif

Pulled it. Three cards, one seat each:

The short answer: this is drifting toward a conversation, not toward a commitment — and the conversation is one both of you have been circling instead of having.

The Past seat is the Hierophant upright: the relationship got its shape from a structure, not from spontaneous feeling. Either there was a formal order to it — an actual commitment, a plan, a set of rules you both signed up for — or the shape came from what your families and friends expect of it. That's the part still quietly running the show.

The Present is the Nine of Wands reversed. Upright, this card is the person standing at the gate with a stick, braced for a blow. Reversed, the guard has come down but not into rest — it's the exhausted version: tiredness, watchfulness, the sense of bracing that no longer has anywhere to point. Something in the last stretch has worn you both out, and neither of you is picking up arms anymore, so you're just holding the posture.

The Queen of Swords reversed as the trajectory is the coldest card in the deck, sitting at the end of the line. Reversed, she's the truth that won't get spoken, or the truth that gets spoken as a verdict rather than a fact. One more stretch of this and the two of you are having the difficult conversation — but from behind armor, in single sentences, about evidence rather than feelings. Two courts in three seats (the Hierophant, the Queen), so this is about positions and roles, not events: who is the teacher here, who is the one holding the edge, and what the "should" looks like in each of your heads.

So, conditionally: if you both actually clear the air — a real conversation where something gets said out loud and it isn't immediately turned into a case — the Queen of Swords stops being cold and starts being the version where at least you know where you stand. If the guard stays up and the structure (the Hierophant's rules) keeps making the decisions neither of you is making, then that reversed Queen is what you get: clarity that arrives as a verdict, and a colder ending than the relationship deserves.

Cards can't report what's actually happening on the other side of this. The one thing worth doing in the next 48 hours, before you decide anything about the conversation: go back through your messages and count who sends first, and who replies — the last three weeks, not your memory of it. And check whether there's a date on your calendar — an anniversary, a date, an occasion you were both counting on — that neither of you has mentioned yet.

You said you had three questions about your love life; only one made it into this spread. Send me the other two and I'll draw those separately.