I've had six readings with different ans

You don't have to pick one of the six — none of them outranks the others. What differed between them was the question each one was asked and the day it was drawn, not the quality of the reader. Here's a fresh pull, three cards, past / present / future:

Past — Three of Swords (upright): the pain of this on-and-off is not hypothetical; something already broke, and it's still the thing the whole pattern circles back to. Every reading you got was answering from around that wound, which is why the answers disagreed — the same wound read through a different day gives different advice.

Present — Six of Cups (upright): what keeps re-kindling this is memory, not current evidence. The warmth you keep meeting is partly the version of this that existed before, and the deck's position here points at the past as the active ingredient, not the other person's inner life — I can't read their mind from a card, only what you'd be looking at.

Future — The Hierophant (reversed): if the present keeps running on recollection rather than on what actually happens between you now, the tendency is either a repeat of the old pattern or a deliberate break from it — those are two different futures and this card doesn't pick one. Conditional, not a forecast.

So: if the reading that matches your contact record also matches the Hierophant reversed, take that one as a working description. If none of the six matches what the record shows, trust the record — not because it's oracle, but because it's the only version of this you can actually check.

One thing to do in the next 48 hours, on your own: open your message history with this person for the last six months and mark two columns — who sent the first message after each gap, and what happened within the first week each time. That's the text nobody can read for you.