How do I get over him?

Getting over him isn't a decision you make — in these three cards it's a thing that stops being the loudest thing in the room, and the loudest thing is still him. The present is The Lovers, upright: right now your attention is organized as *us / not us*, and that frame is the whole problem. It keeps the choice open and keeps you in it.

What put you there is the past, The Emperor reversed — in a relationship like this someone held the rules, or the rules held both of you: rigidity, roles, who was in charge of the temperature. Where that structure has come loose, the usual fix is to grab it tighter, and tightening is what the reversed Emperor is right now.

The future is the Page of Wands reversed. Not a new man — a beginning of your own that you already started and talked yourself out of. Something small you wanted before or right after this ended: a trip, a class, a project, a person you stopped calling. The Page wants to spark and doesn't hold heat. Under this present, that flame keeps getting damped every time his name comes up in the conversation you're having with yourself.

So, conditional: go look at the last thing you abandoned on your own account, not on his. If it still has a date you could put on it, that's where this actually turns — a small start with a real receipt. If every unfinished thread you find turns out to be about him, then The Lovers stays genuinely open, and the honest position is that the choice hasn't been made yet rather than that you've failed to get over him.

One step, tonight or tomorrow: pick the one thing you dropped when this ended, and message a person — a friend, the organizer, whoever holds the date — asking whether it's still happening. Not to feel better; to find out whether the door is still open. The answer is information you cannot get by re-reading anything.

Want the spread drawn as a picture, or this saved to your journal?