How does he honestly see me as a person?

He sees you as someone who is hard to read on purpose — that's the shape the cards give, and I want to be straight with you first: cards don't report what's inside another person's head. What they can show is the picture being built and the signals it's built from.

Past — King of Wands (upright): the version of you he's been forming an opinion from is the driving one. Bold, good at starting things, the one who moves first. If the parts of you he's actually had contact with have been the outward, energetic, take-the-lead parts, that's the raw material of the portrait.

Present — The Hermit (upright): right now he holds a private picture of you — someone with an inner life, deliberate, not handing yourself over easily. Two things sit in that seat at once: it can read as respect for a self-contained person, and it can read as a portrait built mostly from what he hasn't seen. The card won't tell you which; the difference is whether he's been near the quiet parts of you or only the working ones.

Future — Three of Wands (reversed): if nothing changes in that picture, the forward view narrows. Not a break, not a fight — plans that would have had you in them quietly get smaller, because nobody extended the invitation. Two Wands in the spread make fire the through-line: this whole thing runs on action, on who moves first, and the reversal says the moving stops being initiated.

The honest condition: if he's only ever had access to the outward, functional version of you, then the Hermit is a portrait mostly made of absence — flattering and slightly wrong, and the narrowing future follows naturally. If he's been close to the quiet parts, the same Hermit reads as respect, and the narrowing is not his distance but a frame neither of you has enlarged.

Your one move, inside 48 hours: in the next ordinary exchange you have with him, don't give him the summary version of yourself. Answer one question about yourself with what actually happened — the small unpolished detail — and then let the exchange run its own length, without steering it toward a test of anything. Notice what he does with the extra inch. That's observable and yours to do; it doesn't require him to confess anything, and you're not fishing.

Want this spread drawn as a picture you can keep?