I'm an anxious single mom and need advic
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I'm an anxious single mom and need advice on whether to bring my toddler daughter to urgent care today or monitor at home tonight.
Symptoms right now:
- Temperature is 99.9°F (axillary / armpit).
- She has vomited twice today and doesn't want to eat solid food.
- She has been refusing to take her usual liquid fever/pain meds, which has never been an issue before.
- On the positive side, she is still peeing a good amount and having wet diapers.
Should I take her to urgent care/E right now, call our pediatrician, or what specific home care should I do tonight (fluids, positioning, hydration checks)? What are the exact warning signs that mean we must leave for the clinic immediately?
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This is general guidance, not a replacement for your pediatrician's advice — when in doubt, your clinic wins. Tonight you can watch her at home, not rush to the E. The two signs that tell you she's okay right now — and they are doing exactly that — are still passing good wet diapers and not being limp, hard to wake, or working to breathe. A toddler who vomits twice, has a low fever, and is still weeing is not in shock, and the height of a fever is a less useful clue than how she looks and acts.
**Why this is not an E trip tonight**
- 99.9°F under the arm is a low fever for a child (under-arm runs a bit lower than core), and how she looks matters more than the number.
- Vomit twice today with no blood or green colour, no hard swollen belly, and no diarrhoea is on the less-urgent side of a vomiting child.
- She is still taking in enough fluid to wet nappies. The biggest danger in a vomiting toddler is dehydration, and wet diapers say that is not happening now.
- No rash, no stiff neck, no fits, no fast or hard breathing, no one else sick in a way that points to a sudden emergency.
**Tonight at home**
- Keep offering small sips of an oral rehydration solution (the pre-mixed kind from a pharmacy) every few minutes. Small sips stay down better than a full cup.
- Breast milk or her usual milk is fine. Solid food can wait until she asks; do not push solids.
- Light clothing, a room that is warm but not hot, and more to drink overall. No alcohol wipes, no cold baths.
- A fever-reducer is for comfort, not required at this temperature, and especially not worth forcing. If she is not in pain and the fever stays low, the dose plan from your bottle/pediatrician can wait until you've spoken to the clinic.
- Count wet diapers, vomits, and how much she's sipped. A quick note on your phone is enough.
**Leave for urgent care or the E right now if any of these appear**
- Cannot drink at all, or vomits everything for several hours.
- No wet diaper for 8 hours (toddler) or much longer than her usual gap.
- Hard to wake, very sleepy, floppy, or not acting like herself.
- Working hard to breathe — ribs sucking in, fast breathing, grunting, blue lips.
- A rash of red or purple spots that do not fade when you press a glass against them.
- Green (dark) vomit, blood in vomit or stool, or a swollen, hard, painful belly.
- A fit, or confusion that doesn't clear.
- Fever that keeps rising, or lasts several days without a clear cause.
**What to do tomorrow**
- Call your pediatrician in the morning. Two things are worth flagging: the vomiting, and that she is refusing her usual liquid medicine — new medicine-refusal in a toddler can be a clue (sore throat, nausea) and is exactly what a pediatrician should hear about.
- If the night gets worrying and you don't want to wait until morning, call your pediatrician's after-hours line first; they can tell you whether to go in or stay home. Save the urgent care or E for the red-flag list above, not for anxiety alone.
**If you do end up going in, take with you**
- A short log: time and reading of each temperature, times of vomits, wet diapers counted, what fluids she took and how much, and when she last ate.
- The bottle of the fever/pain medicine so the team can read the label and concentration themselves.
- Her weight if you know it, her age in months, and any allergies or regular medicines.