I want my baby right next to me at night

Now I'll write the family-facing draft.

Yes — she can sleep right next to you every night: same room, her own firm flat cot beside your bed, never the same bed. What you already have (a separate firm surface next to your bed) is the right arrangement for her first six months. Two things change tonight: the cot has to be completely empty, and every feed and cuddle has to end with her back in that cot.

1) What you have already tried → what to do instead tonight

2) Tonight (Sunday) — about 25 minutes of work, spread across the evening

1. (5 min) Empty and place the cot. Take out the pillows, the duvet, the blanket, the bumper, the love nest, the toys, the rolled towel. Mattress firm and flat, sheet taut, nothing wedged in the sides. Put the cot in the same spot she will use every night: in your room, away from blind cords, heaters, hot drinks and the window, with a clear path to her.
2. (10 min) Write the night plan on the fridge. Three lines: who is on duty 21:00–01:00, who is on duty 01:00–07:00, and the handover line. Add two rules: *if anyone feels sleepy while holding her, cot first — sofa never*, and *no new method this week*.
3. (5 min) Kitchen, from what is already there. Supper for whoever is on night before 20:00 (bread and cheese, soup, fruit, milk in a jug), water and a snack within reach of the night spot, no cooking after 20:00. The elder's warm drink and toilet trip happen before the on-duty adult settles.
4. (5 min) Set up the feeding spot. A chair beside the cot (not the bed), nappies, a cloth, water, phone charging away from the cot, her sleep sack ready on the cot.
5. (5 min, in the morning) One line in the log: longest stretch without waking, number of feeds, wet nappies, and who got the long block.

Keep it as it is: the same feed, the same order, the same lights. Same wake time tomorrow morning as on a school night — Sunday night is not the night to break the routine, Monday starts with the school week.

3) Never tonight (screenshot)

• ✗ No pillows, duvet, blanket, bumper, love nest, positioning wedge, rolled towel or toy in her cot — not once, not "just for tonight".
• ✗ No bed-sharing, not even for a nap, not even for ten minutes, not even "just lying next to her".
• ✗ No sofa, armchair, beanbag, or floor-with-blanket sleep with her, and no falling asleep with her in your arms.
• ✗ No feeding her lying down, and no shortening or skipping her night feed to make her sleep longer.
• ✗ No room-sharing if the adult on duty has drunk alcohol, smokes, or has taken anything that makes them drowsy (your night antihistamine, any sedating tablet). That adult hands the baby over instead of holding her.
• ✗ No powders, drops, herbal mixtures, melatonin or anything bought online for her, and nothing new for anyone to swallow — the paediatrician and the pharmacist decide that.
• ✗ No changing any medicine tonight, including your sleep machine's settings and your own tablets.
• ✗ No car seat, swing or feeding pillow for her sleep — she can slump forward and suffocate in them.

4) Red flags — when to stop home care and get help

Call your local emergency number now and ask for an ambulance.

Call your local emergency number now and ask for an ambulance if she has: blue lips or a blue face, breathing pauses in sleep, loud snoring with pauses, ribs pulling in, a cry that is high-pitched or weak, being floppy and hard to wake, green or blood-spotted vomit, blood in the stool, or a fit or staring spell.

Same day, at the clinic, not tonight's tinkering: a temperature of 38 °C or above (at under three months that is assessed the same day even if she looks well), markedly fewer wet nappies than usual, a sunken soft spot, feeding much less or sleeping much more than usual, or weight not moving up.

For you, tonight: if you feel you might fall asleep holding her, that is the moment to put her in the cot and hand over — not a failure, a safety stop. Do not drive if you are sleepy. If you are the one who has been carrying the household, and "I cannot keep going" is where you are tonight, call someone today: family, home help, the maternity or paediatric service. Postpartum, get seen straight away for heavy bleeding, a sudden worst-headache with blurred vision, fainting or confusion, fever with weakness, chest pain or breathlessness, one painful swollen calf, or any thought of harming yourself or the baby.

For the elder: found outside, in traffic or in the cold, or impossible to rouse.

Call your local emergency number now and ask for an ambulance.

5) Decision tree (screenshot)

```
She wakes at night
├─ Any red flag above? → stop home care, emergency or same-day help now
├─ She is feeding well in the day, nappies normal, no illness
│ → let her wake for feeds, full feed when she asks it, same order at bedtime,
│ log it in the morning
├─ Weight unknown / nappies fewer / daytime feeds dropping
│ → ask the paediatrician or midwife for a test weight and a written night plan
└─ You feel you might fall asleep holding her
→ STOP: cot first, then sit down, then hand over
```

6) Scripts you can send tonight

To your partner / the other adult:
> "Tonight is the same chain as every other night: dim lights, feed, pyjamas, one or two books, then her on her back in her own cot. No new method this week. Her cot stays empty — no pillow, no duvet, no toy; she sleeps in her own sleep sack. We are not cutting her night feed to make her sleep; when to stop waking her for milk is the paediatrician's call, based on her weight. A is on duty 21:00–01:00, B 01:00–07:00, and the person who is on duty sleeps in a bed, not on the sofa. If anyone feels sleepy holding her: cot first, sofa never."

To your mother (Chinese):
> "和平时一样：小夜灯、走廊留灯。她夜里叫您，您叫我或叫她，不自己开门、不到阳台。等我白天来问一句您昨晚睡得怎么样。"

To the paediatrician (Spanish) — bring this to the next visit, or send it in the app:
> "Nuestra bebé tiene unos tres meses. Queremos que duerma en su propia cuna, en nuestra habitación, sin compartir cama. Esta semana le pusimos almohadas y mantas cerca por el frío. ¿Hasta qué edad se recomienda seguir en la misma habitación? ¿Y a partir de qué peso y edad podemos dejar de despertarla para comer de noche? ¿Nos lo escriben por escrito? Nos gustaría un peso de control."

7) What "better" looks like by tomorrow morning (a measure, not a promise)

• The cot is empty and standing in its one spot, and every single sleep she had happened there, on her back.
• Nobody fell asleep with her on a sofa, in an armchair, or in your bed.
• One adult got one unbroken block of 4–5 hours in a bed, and the handover times are on the fridge.
• Every night feed was given full, at her signal, not cut short.
• One line in the log in the morning, and the paediatrician question written down.
• Monday's school start untouched.

If tonight is rough and she cries more than usual for two nights, that is not a failure of the setup — keep the chain, and do not rewrite it on Monday morning. The goal this week is not zero waking; it is a cot that is empty, a place that never changes, and one adult who gets a real block.

8) Who decides what

• You: the empty cot, the fixed place, the same chain, the written blocks, one log line a morning.
• The adult on duty: the feeds, the settling, and handing the baby over before they get sleepy.
• The paediatrician or midwife: her weight, her daytime intake, whether and when night feeds can stop, and any medicine — nothing is changed at home.
• You (adult): your own medicines and your sleep machine stay exactly as prescribed; your own exhaustion is a medical question, not a discipline question.

One thing I need to make this specific: was she born early or under 2.5 kg, and is tonight at home or still on the ward? If she is still in hospital, the same rules apply there — ask the ward for a firm flat cot beside your bed with nothing in it, and tell them if you feel drowsy, so a member of staff can take one feed.

This is home care and routine, not a diagnosis, and not a substitute for her clinician; no medicine, feed amount or feeding interval is changed here.

No coverage confirmed: without your country and city I cannot print the local emergency number, so I have named the service type instead — call your local emergency number now.