Our 2-year-old has hand, foot and mouth
For reference only. Not medical advice.
Question
Our 2-year-old has hand, foot and mouth disease, and I'm 20 weeks pregnant. How likely is it that I catch it, is it risky for the pregnancy, and how do I care for her while protecting myself? Real household: caregiver juggling school week and one elder or sibling nearby. Schedule: Sun partner home; OB on-call line open; daycare closed for her this week. Kitchen/home right now: disinfectant, gloves, separate towels, popsicles, children's pain reliever. Already tried: sharing cups and kissing her as usual. Please answer as a practical family-care guide: what to do next tonight/today, what to avoid, and a clear decision tree. Constraints: respect «No diagnosis, no medication changes»; no dosing kids/pets/elders yourself; no mystery powders or buying prescription meds online; keep steps screenshot-friendly under ~25 minutes where cooking/care applies. Structure your help as (1) what I already tried vs better alternatives, (2) constraints/avoid list, (3) red flags—when to stop DIY and get clinical/urgent help. Keep the voice concrete and kind for a tired caregiver; stay inside kitchen/home-care/communication levers only. Name what success looks like in 24 hours without promising cures. Avoid brand shopping lists; focus on routines, food already at home, and communication scripts caregivers can screenshot.
Answer
Call your obstetric on-call line tonight, before bed, and say: *"I'm 20 weeks pregnant and I've been in close contact with my 2-year-old who has hand, foot and mouth disease — do I need anything for the pregnancy, and does she need to be seen?"* That is a 20-minute call that answers the one question nobody here can answer for you, and it is the door that is already open. Your daughter, if she is drinking, alert and breathing comfortably, is a home-care night tonight.
1) What you already tried vs. what to do instead
| Already tried | Swap for tonight |
|---|---|
| Sharing cups, kissing her | Her own cup, spoon and plate; you take the kisses to her cheek, hair and shoulders. Kissing is how you settle a 2-year-old — the swap is *where*, not *whether*. |
| Gloves, separate towels, disinfectant | Keep them, and add the two steps that actually carry the risk: soap and water after every diaper change and every wipe of her mouth, and before anyone handles food. Gloves do not replace that. |
| Popsicles and cold drinks | Keep them. Cool, soft, boring food she already tolerates is the goal: yoghurt, porridge, rice, banana, bread. Small sips, often. |
| Children's pain reliever | Only what the bottle label or her own pediatrician has already told you to use. I don't set doses, and I won't suggest a number — this is a comfort measure, not a treatment for the illness. |
| Sunday: partner home | Use it as the split: the non-pregnant adult takes the 2-year-old for a couple of hours so you can sleep or eat, and ideally takes the night settle if she can. Daycare being closed this week is exactly why Sunday matters. |
Two things that cost nothing and reduce your exposure most: whoever changes her diaper washes hands *after*, not just with gloves on, and her towel hangs on a different hook from yours. Keep her hands and her frequently-mouthed toys clean through the day — that is where the fluid actually goes.
2) Avoid list for the next 48 hours
- No aspirin for her, ever, for a viral illness. This one is a hard no, at any dose.
- No antibiotics, no leftover medicine from anyone, no adult tablet halved or measured by eye, no new cream, oil or powder on her sores.
- No cold bath and no alcohol wipes or sponges on her skin to bring the fever down. A bath a little cooler than her, or a cool cloth, is the whole of it.
- No mystery powders, herbal teas or anything bought online without a prescription.
- Don't force food or drink into her if she cannot drink, and don't judge the illness by how much she eats — judge it by whether fluids go in and stay.
- Don't peel or scrub blisters, don't taste her food off her spoon, don't share cups, cutlery or towels.
- No new medicine or supplement for yourself either, without the on-call line or your midwife.
3) Red flags — when to stop DIY
Your daughter — call your local emergency number now if she:
- cannot drink, or only manages a few sips, or has gone hours without a wet nappy, or has a dry mouth and no tears
- is floppy, drowsy, will not wake properly, or only moves when you touch her
- is breathing fast or working hard, grunting, sucking in below the ribs, or her lips look blue
- has a fit
- has spots or red/purple patches that do not fade when you press a clear glass firmly on them
- has a red patch that is spreading, hot and tender, or hurts more than it looks
- is simply getting worse rather than better
Same-day clinician, not the emergency number, if:
- the fever is heading for 4–5 days, or she has red eyes, cracked lips, a very red tongue, or puffy red hands and feet, or a rash that comes and goes
- she stops drinking for a feed, or the sores bleed, or she will not let anything near her mouth
You — call your local emergency number, or go straight in, if you have:
- vaginal bleeding, or leaking fluid
- fever with feeling too weak to get out of bed
- a severe headache with blurred or flashing vision
- severe abdominal pain
- fast or difficult breathing
- chest pain, or one calf that is painful, red or swollen
- a seizure, or a collapse
When you call, say first: "I am 20 weeks pregnant." That one sentence changes who comes and how fast.
Two things to raise on the on-call line tonight, whether or not you feel unwell:
- You have already had close exposure — that is a question for them, not a home judgement.
- If anyone is not certain this is hand, foot and mouth — if the blisters are itchy and come in crops (chickenpox), or if there is a cough, runny nose and a rash that started on her face (measles) — say so on that call. Those are looked at differently in pregnancy, and both are worth a same-day word from them rather than a home decision.
And call the on-call line the same day if you develop any of it yourself: a sore throat or mouth sores, blisters on your hands or feet, a rash, or a fever. Do not wait to see whether it settles.
Where this stops. I am not diagnosing her, and I am not diagnosing you — hand, foot and mouth in pregnancy is not something this guide covers in detail, which is exactly why the on-call line is the first sentence rather than a footnote. Nothing here changes a medicine, and I do not set doses for her, for you, or for anyone else in the house.
What success looks like in 24 hours
Not a cure — hand, foot and mouth runs its own course, and nothing at home shortens it. Success is: she is drinking small amounts often and her nappies are still wet, she is alert and playing between rest, the mouth is soothed rather than bleeding, and her temperature is comfortable rather than hot. On your side: hands washed, food handled after, and a few hours of sleep. If those three hold, tonight was handled well.
One question that changes tonight's plan: do you have any symptoms right now — sore throat, mouth sores, blisters on hands or feet, rash, or fever? And tell me which country and city you are in, so I can point you at a real door with a real number rather than describing one.
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