Our dog bit our 20-month-old—how do we k

2026-09-29 · Answered by the Doramagic.ai AI assistant · Family triage

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Question

Our dog bit our 20-month-old—how do we keep both of them safe at home from now on? Real household: caregiver juggling school week and one elder or sibling nearby. Schedule: Wed wound check 09:00; trainer call Thu. Kitchen/home right now: baby gates, crate, dog bed, toddler playpen. Already tried: let them play unsupervised in the living room. Please answer as a practical family-care guide: what to do next tonight/today, what to avoid, and a clear decision tree. Constraints: respect «No diagnosis, no medication changes»; no dosing kids/pets/elders yourself; no mystery powders or buying prescription meds online; keep steps screenshot-friendly under ~25 minutes where cooking/care applies. Structure your help as (1) what I already tried vs better alternatives, (2) constraints/avoid list, (3) red flags—when to stop DIY and get clinical/urgent help. Keep the voice concrete and kind for a tired caregiver; stay inside kitchen/home-care/communication levers only. Name what success looks like in 24 hours without promising cures. Avoid brand shopping lists; focus on routines, food already at home, and communication scripts caregivers can screenshot.

Answer

I'll read the relevant clinical cards first, then write the answer.

Let me also check the pet safety side, since the user wants to keep both safe going forward.

Let me check the family profile to see if there's relevant context for the 20-month-old.

Now I'll write the draft.

Keep the wound check at 09:00 Wednesday, watch the bite closely through the night for any of the red flags in section (3), and from now on the dog and toddler only meet with an adult in arm's reach — no exceptions, no "just a minute." A 20-month-old has no concept of dog body language, and a family dog that has bitten once is most often a dog whose signals were missed, not a dog that has "turned." I'm not diagnosing or giving doses — that is for the clinician tomorrow. If anything in section (3) appears before 09:00, go to the emergency department now, do not wait for the appointment.

(1) What you already tried vs. better alternatives

Already tried	Why it's not safe on its own	Better alternative from tonight
Letting them play unsupervised in the living room	A 20-month-old grabs, pokes, hugs too tight, falls on the dog. The dog has very few ways to say "stop" before a bite. "Unsupervised" is the setup that produced this bite	From now on, dog and toddler are only together when an adult is on the floor in arm's reach. The default is separation: baby gates between rooms, dog crate or a separate room when you can't be there, toddler in the playpen when the dog is loose. Rotate, don't overlap free time
Treating the bite as the main problem	The bite is the wound. The setup that made the bite possible is the recurring problem — and it's the harder one to fix	Same appointment for the wound, plus the trainer call on Thursday. Behavior work is for the dog–toddler pair as a system, not a "bad dog"
Thinking the wound just needs a clean and a plaster	Bite wounds — especially puncture-type from canine teeth — look small on the surface and can be deep, and infection can start before the surface seals. Cleaning matters but is not the whole job	Gentle rinse with clean running water for a couple of minutes if there's visible dirt (only if bleeding is already controlled), pat dry, cover loosely with a clean non-stick dressing or clean cloth. No alcohol, no hydrogen peroxide, no antibiotic ointment from your own drawer, no "natural" paste. Photograph the wound now and again before bed — with timestamps in the photo if your camera can add them
Letting the dog "say sorry" by licking the child or sleeping on the child's bed to make up	Licking a fresh bite wound puts mouth bacteria straight into broken skin. Reassuring contact also teaches the dog that bite-then-cuddle works, and gives the toddler mixed signals about the dog	Dog and toddler are physically separated tonight and going forward, even when both are calm. Reintroduction, if a trainer agrees it's safe later, is slow, on leash, with treats, and an adult choosing the moment — not a "they've made up" moment
Assuming the dog "knew what it was doing"	A dog that bites a small child in its own home is usually a dog that warned and was not listened to (lip lick, yawn, look away, stiffen, walk away) or that was cornered with a resource (food, bed, toy, the toddler's face near its face)	Learn the dog's stress signals (lip lick, yawn, whale eye, stiff body, growl, tucked tail). Any of those = toddler moves away, dog gets a break. Watch especially around food, bones, the dog's bed, and greetings at the door

(2) Constraints / avoid list

Never leave them unsupervised again — not for "ten seconds", not while you pee, not while you're on a call. That is the single rule. Bites happen in seconds, and the second bite is often worse because the dog has learned the bite worked.
Do not put alcohol, hydrogen peroxide, iodine, or essential oils on the bite. These damage the tissue that's trying to heal and can seal bacteria in. Clean water only.
Do not apply any antibiotic ointment, cream, or powder from home (including the kids' "boo-boo" cream) unless the clinician who sees the wound tomorrow tells you to. Bite wounds are often left open or closed by the clinician, not by you, and an ointment can change that decision.
Do not let the dog lick the wound. Pasteurella and other mouth bacteria are exactly what bite-wound infections are made of.
Do not give any pain medicine for the bite except what the child's regular clinician has already approved for this child, at the label dose. Don't improvise with adult tablets, don't double up on paracetamol and ibuprofen, don't guess the weight. No aspirin for a child with a viral illness on board.
Do not give the dog any human pain medicine (paracetamol, ibuprofen, aspirin) even if the dog "looks sore." Many of these are toxic to dogs; the dog's vet — not your drawer — decides.
Do not scold, hit, or "alpha roll" the dog for the bite. That makes a re-bite more likely, not less. The trainer call on Thursday is the channel for the behavior side.
Do not have the child "apologise" or hug the dog to "fix it." The toddler should be neutral-to-distant with the dog for the foreseeable future.
Do not rehome the dog on the spot tonight. Once the wound is seen and you've spoken to the trainer, you'll have a clearer picture; tonight the priority is safety, not a permanent decision.
Don't tape the wound shut, don't superglue it, don't butterfly it from this card. A bite that crosses the lip line, involves the hand/foot joint, the face, the genitals, or has a dusky flap is the clinician's call, not the first-aid kit's.
Don't bathe the dog right after a bite to "wash the guilt off." The dog's mouth bacteria are already in the wound; the wound check is about the child, the dog is fine.

(3) Red flags — stop DIY and get clinical/urgent help now

Go to the emergency department now (do not wait for the 09:00 wound check) if any of these are true tonight or tomorrow morning before the appointment:

Bleeding from the bite that does not slow within 10–15 minutes of firm direct pressure with a clean cloth.
Bite is on the face, lips, eyelids, ear, scalp, neck, genitals, hand, foot, or over a joint — these need urgent specialist review regardless of how small they look.
Bite is deep, gaping, or has a flap of skin that looks grey, blue, or dusky — possible tendon, nerve, or blood-vessel injury.
The toddler cannot move, or refuses to use, the hand/arm/leg that was bitten, or is guarding the joint nearest the bite.
Numbness, tingling, or colour change in the fingers or toes on the bitten limb (pale, blue, cold).
Spreading redness from the wound, especially a red streak moving up the limb toward the body.
Swelling that is getting worse, not better, several hours after the bite.
Pus, foul smell, or increasing fluid from the wound.
Fever, even low-grade, or the child feels hot, is flushed, or is shivering.
The child looks more sleepy than usual, is not playing, is not drinking, is irritable in a way that can't be consoled, or is vomiting.
The dog that bit is not the family's own dog, is stray or unknown, or you cannot confirm its rabies vaccination status — that is an emergency-department conversation tonight, not tomorrow.
You cannot tell whether the child's tetanus shots are up to date (a 20-month-old should have had the 18-month booster in many schedules; if you're not sure, bring the red book / vaccination card to the wound check).
The bite was provoked by an adult scolding or physically punishing the dog in front of the child — both need to be out of the same room tonight.

Trust the child's appearance over the calendar. A toddler who is limp, won't drink, won't play, or is much sleepier than usual with a bite of any size is an emergency, even if the appointment is in eight hours.

What to bring to the 09:00 wound check

The child's vaccination record (especially tetanus).
A clear photo of the wound taken now with the time.
Time the bite happened, who was in the room, what the toddler was doing, what the dog was doing (eating? sleeping? being hugged? on the sofa?), whether the dog gave any warning signs before the bite.
The dog's vaccination record, especially rabies.
The name of the dog (and trainer if you've booked the Thursday call), so the clinician knows this is a known, owned dog.

24-hour target — what "better" looks like without promising a cure

Tonight: dog and toddler separated by gates/crates/closed doors. Wound gently rinsed with clean water if needed, loose clean cover, photographed. Adult within arm's reach any time they are in the same room. Bedtime routine kept calm; the toddler's sleep is part of the healing.
Tomorrow morning 09:00: at the wound check. Ask the clinician three questions: "Does this need antibiotics now, not at the first sign of infection?" "Is the tetanus cover still good?" and "What exactly should bring us back to the ED tonight instead of waiting for the next appointment?"
Thursday trainer call: ask for a risk assessment of dog-and-toddler together, a written management plan, and what to watch in the dog over the next 2–4 weeks that would mean the dog is not safe in a family with small children.
This week: toddler and dog do not share space without an adult on the floor. No "they've made up" photos, no guilt-based cuddles. The wound will look worse before it looks better — that's normal — but the trend should be toward less redness, less swelling, less pain, more use of the limb.

This is home-care framing, not a diagnosis. The clinician tomorrow decides antibiotics, tetanus cover, and whether the wound needs to be reopened, left alone, or closed.