My 20-month-old has COVID with fever, ru

Most of what you're already doing is right; the change is to stop treating eating as the goal and switch to fluids, breathing and rest — and here's the short list of signs that mean you stop home care and go in.

First, the one thing I'd change tonight

Forcing food is the most tiring thing you can do with a sick toddler, and it rarely wins. Fluids and breathing comfort matter far more. Offer small amounts often — a sip of water, a few mouthfuls of milk or whatever she already drinks — and don't chase the last spoonful. A child who is well and drinking today can eat properly in a few days; a child who is pushed, gagged and exhausted tonight sleeps worse, not better.

What success looks like in the next 24 hours (not a cure — a direction you can see)

• She's drinking more often, and still weeing through the day. Wet nappies are the number to count; how high the thermometer goes is not.
• She's awake and herself between sleeps — playing a little, wanting her person, not flat and floppy.
• Breathing is quiet and easy when she's calm and asleep, and she's not working hard for each breath.
• Fever, if still there, is tracked with times so you can show a pattern rather than a scary number.

None of that means "no more fever." It means the illness is being handled at home instead of turning into an emergency.

1) What you've tried, and a better way to do it

Thermometer. Good. Two upgrades: write the time next to each reading and use the same site each time, so the doctor gets a pattern instead of a scatter. Use the number for your own tracking, not as a rule — it does not tell you how sick she is. How she looks and behaves does.

Saline drops. Good, keep going. A few drops before feeds or before sleep, then let her blow her nose or sit up — it clears the nose and helps her drink and sleep. Follow the drops' own label.

Sleep. A blocked nose is most of the poor sleep. Raise the head of the cot a little (a folded towel under the mattress edge — never a pillow or anything loose in the cot), keep the room cool and ventilated, and use a light layer rather than piling on bedding.

Eating. Stop forcing. Offer, don't insist, and keep the routine of the day the same as far as you can — same cups, same spoon, same order of the evening. Small and often beats one big meal.

Fluids. Keep it available all day: water, milk, diluted juice in a cup she holds herself. A few mouthfuls every hour or two while she's awake counts.

Night plan (you're not alone, so use it). Agree now, in one message, who does what: one adult owns the middle-of-the-night wake-ups, the other covers the early start and the sibling/elder. The night job is: nose drops, a drink, a cuddle, back down — not a full wake-up. You are the one who has to make the go-in decision, so protect that person's sleep.

Room. Ventilate the house a few times a day, no smoking or vaping, and keep the sick child's things washable (hats, tissues, cot sheets) — she's contagious.

2) Avoid / don't-do list

• No force-feeding, no chasing her around the house with a plate.
• No cough and cold medicines for a child under 4 — no benefit, real harm.
• No aspirin for a viral fever, and no fever medicines of your own choosing. If a clinician has already told you what to give, follow that exactly and read the label; if not, ask a pharmacist or the doctor rather than starting one.
• No leftover antibiotics, no "try it and see" antibiotics, no prescription medicines bought online, no mystery powders or herbal sachets.
• Don't rub her down with alcohol, no cold bath, no ice.
• Don't use a home pulse oximeter or any app as a "she's fine" certificate; a normal reading never rules anything out.
• Don't put her to bed "to see how she is in the morning" if her alertness changes.
• Don't share the elder's or sibling's medicines, and don't give anyone else's cough syrup or painkiller.

3) Decision tree — screenshot this

Call your local emergency number now if any of these appear:

• Working hard to breathe: ribs or neck sucking in with each breath, grunting, breathing very fast, or lips/fingers going blue or grey.
• Drowsy and floppy, hard to wake, doesn't answer you like herself, or won't stop crying no matter what you do.
• Cannot drink at all, or refuses everything for hours.
• A fit (stiffening and jerking, or loss of consciousness).
• Red or purple spots that do not fade when you press a clear glass against them.
• Fewer than about 4 wet nappies in 24 hours, or a noticeably bulging soft spot, or a stiff neck.
• Green vomit, or crying in bouts where she goes pale and draws up her legs.

Go to a clinician the same day (booked, not urgent) if:

• The fever is now on day 4–5, or returns after a clear stretch.
• Red eyes, cracked lips, a rash that comes and goes, swollen hands or feet, or peeling skin.
• A swollen or painful limb or joint, or she won't use an arm or leg.
• She isn't feeding across a whole day, or is much quieter than usual for more than a few hours.
• You're simply not sure — that's a valid reason to ask.

Home care is fine while: she is drinking, weeing, breathing easily at rest, waking up, and recognisably herself, even with fever and a runny nose.

While waiting or travelling: let her choose the position she breathes easiest in (often sitting forward or on your lap), keep her with her calm caregiver, handle her as little as possible, keep her warm, and note the times — last drink, last wet nappy, temperature, when she last seemed herself. Take the thermometer and the saline drops with you, plus her immunisation details and any medicine already given (name only).

Before you go: the one-pager

Everything the doctor will ask for — timings, nappy count, medicines, return signs — is on a printable one-page sheet you can hand over at the desk or read out on the phone: covid-toddler-visit-sheet-a72fc5cf.pdf

Limits, said plainly

I cannot diagnose her, and I can't say what her test result means or which medicine is right for her. I also can't give a dose, a strength, or an add/stop plan for any medicine, fever medicine included — that belongs to a clinician, or to the pharmacist on the bottle. And with no country or city from you there is no coverage on my side for an emergency number or a named hospital: tell me where you are and I'll look it up properly.

One question that actually changes tonight: is she still drinking, and roughly how many wet nappies has she had in the last 24 hours?

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Checked 2026-10-08: a general COVID-19 reference page from the US National Library of Medicine confirms only that this is a viral illness; the warning signs and home-care steps above come from the paediatric fever, breathing and visit-preparation guidance, not from that page.